When Your Friends’ Kids Become Adults but Not Yours

How to Share in the Joy and in the Sadness

Photo by Leandro Cavinatto

Each year in America, hundreds of thousands of young men and women prepare to begin their adult lives as they turn 18. They rattle off their accomplishments — debate team championships, AP credits earned, and varsity letters. They discuss their college plans in a matter-of-fact way, as if predetermined or predestined. They drive.